I’m Bessie Lacap a 26 year old wife and a stay at home mom. Born and raised in the Philippines, currently living in San Francisco.
Will blog about: fashion and style, mommahood rants, adulting, wifey diaries, stay at home craziness, SF adventures
Have been meaning to start a blog during college days at Enderun, where blogs have just been recently up and coming but has always been skeptical about over-sharing. Worked in the wedding industry as per my bachelors degree where my dad just kind of forced me into taking (but ended up loving the events part anyway), my real and all time love is fashion and the arts. So after my Bachelor’s, took up styling and figured its the fastest easy access to the fashion industry. After styling a few fashion shows,ad campaigns and billboard ads, decided to focus on Engagement styling. Loved every bit of it. the creative outlet, the shopping, the endless clothes and options and mix and match and themes and venues and lovely love stories of every couple i worked with. Juggling a few hats at the same time, family business and my own businesses, my own life and shenanigans at 24. (other details will remain unmentioned)
Quarter life crisis strikes and i dropped everything for a quest of Adventure and self search. Moved to LA to get more experience in fashion firsthand but ended up moving to SF after marrying the love of my life. Got pregnant and now a new mom to a wonderful chunky baby boy.
Life indeed did not go as planned but you just gotta adjust your sails and go with it. I am grateful for everything that had happened in my life that made me who i am today. Which brings me back to why i am starting this blog.
Being a new mom at this age and at this strange new place is not an easy road. Include the crazy complicated situation which i’d rather not go into, i basically don’t have a support system. The only thing that has been keeping my sanity is knowing that i am not alone and everything that i am going through: the emotional roller coaster, the “i-dont-know-what-the-hell-I’m-doing” feeling, and the anxieties that comes with having this new tiny human being enter your life. Don’t get me wrong it’s not all bad and it actually feels kind of amazing most of the time. Makes me feel like a superhero, hence the title of this blog: WonderMomma.
And now back to my point, i am starting this blog to share about #themomlife. the raw and unedited real mom life. The sleepless nights and the poopoo blowouts, the meltdowns and identity struggles, the date nights and sex life or the lack thereof, the “nothing-fits” phase after birth, the weight struggles, the anxieties, the amazing feeling when you hear your baby’s first laugh, or the way he looks at you like you are the most perfect person in the world even though you didn’t shower for days and you smell like throw up. The good the bad and especially the ugly.
I want to share what i learned and currently struggling about. I want all new moms out there to know and feel that they are not alone in this crazy thing we got ourselves into. I also want to share all the fashion struggles i went through during pregnancy and breastfeeding. Tips and tricks in styling and keeping your mommy glow. I want to talk about me time and working on yourselves as i try and struggle with you. Date night and balancing the hubby and the baby as i master the tips and tricks of the trade.
I don’t know it all and i’m not blogging to teach you all about how to do things and blah blah. Nope, this is not that kind of blog. I want you to feel like we are going through this together. I am here to share things i have learned and is still mastering. I want new moms to realise that we don’t need to be perfect and we don’t need to know it all before the baby comes. i want to empower and encourage moms and to just be there. Sometimes knowing that you are not going crazy and it is normal helps, at least for me and maybe it will to all the other moms and moms-to-be struggling out there too.
Also, gives me something to do while the baby naps and as i procrastinate on doing the dishes. Gives me an outlet too that shoves all the kiddie songs outta my head.
So bear with me as i go through #themomlife with you and as i master the art of being the WoderMomma.